The Symptoms of
Parent-Withdrawal
By
Rachel Mahaffey
Day care results in
adverse effects for
children.
Author Mary Eberstadt
recently wrote a book
titled Home-Alone
America: The Hidden Toll
of Day Care, Behavioral
Drugs and Other Parent
Substitutes. In this
book Ms. Eberstadt
explores the "immediate
emotional experience"
that day care, divorce
and an overabundance of
Ritalin cause for
children. She says: "It
would be better for both
children and adults if
more American parents
were with their kids
more of the time."
Eberstadt's book
confirms what much
research has already
revealed.
A 2002 National
Survey of America's
Families reported that
72.8 percent of families
where both parents
worked and had children
under age five have
someone other than the
parents care for the
children. The feminists
have achieved their
goal: widely available
child care to "free
themselves of
motherhood." Millions of
families use day care or
other methods of child
supervision each week,
primarily because of the
rising number of working
mothers.
But what happens when
mom and dad drive away?
How safe is day care? Is
it merely a neutral
convenience or are there
unsuspected hazards for
children?
The reality is
well-known among
experts. Dr. Janice Shaw
Crouse, senior fellow of
the Beverly LaHaye
Institute, reports,
"We've known for years
that the outcomes are
undesirable when
children spend too much
time in day care.
Regrettably, though, the
negative findings of the
comprehensive studies
are buried in the small
print while the
headlines trumpet
messages that make
parents feel OK about
putting their children
in full-time day care."
Studies have shown
that children in daycare
centers are more likely
to become:
-
sick,1
-
stressed,2
-
passively
withdrawn,3
-
aggressive,
defiant and
disobedient4
Psychologist Dr. Ken
Madig also notes that
"an increasing number of
children suffer a
'character disturbance'
called Antisocial
Personality Disorder (APDP).
The symptoms of ADP
include "emotional
detachment and
uncontrollable inner
rage, and its origins
can be traced to
disruptions in
parent-infant bonding."5
Children in day care
are not taught social
skills or education.
Children are often put
into "overcrowded or
otherwise unloving child
care situations in which
they have been forced as
an infant to fight for
attention and form
behavior based on the
contradictory messages
about acceptable
behavior that they have
received from parents
and daytime caregivers."6
The National Child
Care survey estimated
that in centers caring
for 1-year-olds, the
average group size was
10 children, the average
ratio of children to
staff was seven to one,
and older children (ages
2-5) were frequently
crowded into groups of
15. Some studies have
suggested an average of
seven different people a
day and 15 a week care
for each day care child.7
Author Brian
Robertson agrees in his
book, There is No
Place Like Work,
"Day care workers' tasks
are more akin to crowd
control than to the
formation of young
minds."8
Day care workers even
confess that they
wouldn't put their own
children in day care.9
At its worst, the
hazardous environment of
day care has even
contributed to some
tragic and preventable
deaths. Last August, a
6-month-old baby was
killed when two
unsupervised children
piled toys on him as he
lay in a crib.10
In June of 2003 a
2-year-old died after
his day care providers
left him in a van for
more than two hours in
100-degree heat.11
But what happens to
school-aged kids?
When children are too
old for day care, they
may become latchkey
kids. Up to 12 million
children endure the
risks of latchkey life,
that is, they stay home
alone or with siblings
and without supervision
on a regular basis. The
ages of latchkey kids
range from six to 13.
Studies by the American
Academy of Pediatrics
have found that latchkey
kids exhibit higher
levels of fear, stress,
loneliness and boredom;
miss more days of
school; and have lower
academic scores. They
are also more likely to
experiment with sex and
drugs than kids who
aren't left by
themselves for long
periods of time.12
Another problem is
that TV is a common
babysitter when children
remain unsupervised.
Half of the nation's
youth spend more than
two hours a day watching
TV, yet 76 percent said
they would choose more
time with their parents
if they had the option.13
On average parents
spend only 17 hours per
week with their
children.14
Also, a recent survey
shows that many students
from grades 6-12 had not
conversed longer than 10
minutes with their
parents in more than one
month.
It is obvious that
there is a problem with
the care that America's
children are receiving.
When a son or daughter
sees Ms. Jones at day
care or Elmo on TV more
than their mom or dad,
serious implications
result for the health of
the children and of the
family.
Instead of asking the
typical question of what
is best or more
convenient for the
adults, we must ask the
serious question: "What
is best for our
children?" Dr. Crouse's
answer: The best
environment to foster a
child's intellectual
development is one in
which his or her mother
is actively involved on
a day-to-day basis; the
best environment is the
home.15
End Notes
- Bell, David M.,
Gleiber, Dennis W.,
Mercer, Alice
Atkins, "Illness
associated with
child day care: a
study of incidence
and cost,"
American Journal of
Public Health,
v. 79 (April 1989),
p. 479-84.
- cbsnews.com "The
Negative Effects of
Childcare?" July 17,
2003, as found at
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2003/07/16/earlyshow/living/parenting/printable563639.shtml.
- Robertson,
Brian; There is
No Place Like Work
(Dallas, Texas:
Spence Publishing
Company, 2000) p.
26.
- Kathryn Hooks,
"'Hands-On' Love,"
Concerned Women for
America, 8 July
2003, as found at
www.beverlylahayeinstitute.org.
- Mack, Dana;
The Assault on
Parenthood (New
York: Simon and
Schuster, 1997), p.
182.
- Mack, p. 183.
- Robertson, p.
26.
- Robertson, p.
27.
- Robertson, p.
25.
- Saul, Stephanie,
"Report: Day care
checks inadequate,"
Newsday, 8
October 2004.
- Miller, Bill,
"Death sickened
day-care workers,
attorney says,"
Star-Telegram
[Dallas/Fort Worth]
6 June 2003.
- American Academy
of Pediatrics,
"Latchkey Kids", as
found at
http://www.northpointpediatrics.yourmd.com/ypol/common/commonPrinterFriendly.asp?cid=ZZZQ1VPMQID.
- Robertson, p.
12.
- Robertson, p. 9.
- Mahaffey,
Rachel, and Arlia,
Eva,
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